So as I was checking out my man B Wash's blog Just My Thoughts! (check it out for yourself it's a nice spot), one of his post really caught my attention and inspired me to recreate it but in a female perspective. So without further ado, I present my Ideal Man....
Appearance~ Now if you know me I really don't discriminate, but there is something about a black man that I just love. So if I were to give it a hue, I guess I would have to say Caramel or darker (and I mean all the way to the end dark lol).
~ With my hair being short, I get it shaped up almost every week and I stay at the salon every two weeks. With that being said, having a jacked up shape up or bushy Locks/Braids is unacceptable!!!!
~ Posture must be straight and proper, to slouch is to convey that one is not confident in either their appearance or in what they are saying. Therefore, if you want a confident woman on your arm then you must present yourself as a confident man.
~ Saggin=the lamest and ugliest trend in men's fashion. I should not have to suffer and see your already too big pants falling below your narrow behind. Pull up your britches and then maybe I will address you
~ I would be remiss if I said that looks do not matter, they do and although you don't have to be the most handsome man in the world....if your teeth are messed up and yellow then PLEASE DO NOT GET IN MY FACE!!!!!
Intelligence~ Conversation is KEY!!! If you can not start, hold, or finish one then you will not be able to handle me
~ I like to know what's going on around the world, so I would like it if my man knew the world beyond Sportscenter or what is fed to them through 15 second news spots on BET/MTV....pick up a newspaper or a news journal or if you like computers its all on the Internet for free!!
~ As an English major reading beyond the classroom is what I do. Do I expect that out of every man? Sadly, no. But I do expect for my man to have some knowledge of literature that was not assigned to them and that is not a monthly publication. To put it this way, a book with lots of chapters and no pictures!!
~ Be driven in all your endeavors, to succeed in whatever you wish to do and not settle for what is given to you.
~ Thug Life is not real life for a college educated man, leave the games/pick up lines at the door; only serious real man on their grown tip need apply
Style~ Polo and jeans does not equal fashion sense; Please be able to successfully understand and execute business/professional, casual, and Sunday down time attire at the proper time and place.
~ It's 2008 it's time to have a signature scent, and Axe body spray does not count
~ If the shoes/jeans/shirt is a mess then you are letting me and the world know that you are not dressed to impress and therefore you are not working towards success.
~ Have confidence in your style choices--if you like urban wear then be the best dressed urban hipster you know. If you are in the professional world develop a signature style that is all your own and sets you apart (trust I will notice and so will your employer)
Personality~ Sense of humor is great because who doesn't like to laugh and have someone they care about make them laugh
~ Sarcasm is good, but knowing how to take a sarcastic comment and not take offense is even better
~ Know when to Invade my space and also learn when to Vacate it.
~ Having a willingness to explore new cultures and art forms---I am a big fan of all types of music, I am getting into different styles of visual art, and as someone who danced for 15 years I will aways have a love/passion for the world of dance. So if you can only comprehend going to sporting events, the movies, or other places that are typical then it's time to get out more.
So this is what I have so far, I know there is more and I will probably update this post to reflect that but for the time being this is what I envision my ideal man being. So I ask the question, is this list asking to much out our men today? Should I have to downgrade my own standards to relate to yours or should I simply work to elevate your standards to match my own? These are the questions that many black women ask themselves, so what do you think?
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